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Anything is possible if you've got enough nerve - JK Rowling.

"Anything is possible if you've got enough nerve..." - JK Rowling.

I read this quote and it reminded me of a few things that forced me to muster up enough nerve to push through my insecurities this past year. I'm sharing 5 things that pushed me out of my comfort zone, but required the nerve and courage to make things happen in my life.

#1 - Opening myself up on this blog and on social media. I have always have been one to worry about what people thought, and in all honesty, it has held me back from doing a lot of what I love, including blogging. I struggled with finding the right things to say, what an outfit or photos would look like to others, etc. Feeling like I wasn't good enough, knowledgeable enough, you name it. I thought of any and everything that would lead me to just shrug this thing off totally.

However, thanks to a lot of the ladies that have inspired me, their messages were clear. Just start, do, make mistakes, look crazy, or whatever. As Maya Angelou said, "nothing will work unless you do".

Look at me now, the Nerve to create this post!

(Blazer, Satin Pants, & Clutch - Forever21, Tank - A New Day for Target, Sunnies - Betsy Johnson)

#2 - Putting my health and wellness at the forefront of my priorities. There are a few illnesses that run in my family: high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and colon cancer. Making being and staying well a priority motivated me to get the proper screenings that I needed to create a plan for good health.

I didn't stop there though, I also committed to eating right and becoming more active. Taking these small steps got me on the right track. All of my levels stayed in check and I also lost 10lbs lost. Can you believe that?

**Side note: I couldn't fit this jacket before - The Nerve!!

#3 - Focused on advancing in my career. One of the tools to continue to trend upward was to sit for the Senior Human Resources Professional Certification Exam (SPHR). I tried two times a few years back and failed. I have to say, it was a bruise to the ego, as I thought I was at the top of my game even though the pass rate was really low. After those two failures, I vowed that I was done. The money, time, and added stress weren't worth for me, it was but I was hurt. Fast forward to May, I reassessed the materials, created a new plan, studied for 3 months straight, and passed in August 2019.

The Nerve!!

#4 - Forgave myself  - I decided to forgive myself for all of the mistakes that I made in my past. I also, let go of the guilt and shame that was a result of letting down and hurting people that I cared for. For me, it was important that I committed to getting rid of all of the energy that I carried around as a result of these things. It was not only important for me and my wellbeing but to ensure that my current and future relationships were not weighed down as a result of the baggage that I was carrying.

The Nerve to forgive!

#5 - Put in the work to create the life that I desire -  In my 20's the ideal life was living it up, living on my terms, being free! Oh and boy did I have a good time! I didn't care about anything but myself. Not the best way to live, but I lived it to the fullest.

In my 30's it was about settling down and creating the ideal life. You know the get married, buy a house, and try to have those 2.5 kids ideal?  Low and behold that didn't work, something about the right things with the absolute wrong person?

Now that I'm in my 40's,  I will say that the life that I desire is all about what's best for me not in the way of the '20s, but a healthy productive all about me phase. The one that comes with kindness and care, ensuring that I'm focusing on what brings peace and pure joy to my heart.

The Nerve to just create joy?!

In all honesty, this is just the beginning. I am so excited to keep building up the nerve to tackle my fears and push my limits. How about you, what are some of the things that you had enough nerve to accomplish this past year?

As always, thank you for stopping by and taking the time out to read this post. Have a fabulous day!

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Style Inspo - #WCW - Bianca Jagger

So, it's Wednesday Yall! How about we go back to #WCW's? In this series, I'll be sharing the women that inspire me in all areas of life. This week I am highlighting one of the "IT" girls of the '70s, the one, and only Bianca Jagger!

Come on guys, how cool is the above shot? They say that there's nothing new under the sun and "they" are correct. As we see it play out year after year with fashion and beauty trends. Even the "ussie" a trend that many thought was created by the social media generation. Wrong!

Anyhoo, Bianca was a fixture on the Studio 57 scene, partying it up with the likes of Diana Ross (who will most definitely be featured), Michael Jackson, Cher, and many more stars of the time. She was always dressed in trendy styles and gave major face while doing it. Not to mention she married one of the coolest dudes of the time, Mick Jagger!

My Pinterest is flooded with images of her, donning outfits that I would clearly wear today. Like the above puff-sleeved jacket.

She came to slay in all red sparkles! With matching barret. This would have looked fab on a star for the Golden Globe Awards since red was one of the tends.

Her signature style was the pantsuit, and boy did she make it sexy! I'd love to stay inspired. Please share, who are some of your style crushes? Comment below....

Thank you for stopping by. Happy Humpday! 


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Lippie Chic

(From l to r: Russian Red, Ruby Woo, and Lady Danger.) 

One of my goals this year is to wear lipstick more often. While I do have a variety of shades on hand, I tend to forgo it on a daily basis. I believe that I'm scarred from my catholic high school days, those nuns at St. Mary's Academy were not having it!

So instead of jumping into my entire lipstick collection, I thought I'd share a few of my favorite reds to inspire those that may be in a similar position. If you're like me, a red lip can be a bit intimidating at first as some shades can be a bit overbearing. Not to mention the wrong color can drown out your complexion or even worse, make you look ooooold! 

But there's hope my friend! It took me a while to get comfortable wearing some of these but I think I found my stride and you can too. Mac Cosmetics continues to be my go-to brand for a great lippie, and as far as reds go, my favorites are what Allure Magazine once called the holy trinity. Let's get into it, shall we? 

First up is Russian Red - I stumbled across this one when I was very intimidated by wearing the others. This red is my go-to for a casual red lip. If I wore red every day, this would be the one. It's not too bold and as far as reds go not overbearing. The color high lights my skin tone nicely and doesn't flatten out my complexion. 

Another fave is the all so famous, Ruby Woo - Now who doesn't love this color? I got turned on to this one circa 2013 when Rhianna launched her Riri Woo version and I haven't looked back. This one gives off a very very matte look that I love. It gives off a very bold/statement look that I tend to opt for this one for nights out. 

Lastly, is Lady Danger, the name speaks for itself doesn't it? This one is more of a summer red for me, as it carries more orange tones to it and goes great with a nice brown complexion, (me after a full day in the sun). It's bright and fun gives off a nice whimsical look. Looking forward to cracking this one open come June!

There you have it, my go to reds. What are some of your favorite red lippies? Share in the comments!! 

As always thank you for taking the time out to visit my blog! More to come...

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Red Lips & Cofee Sips - Leggeaux!

Walking into 2020 feeling reFRESHed! 

I'm so happy that I took it easy these last couple of days. That R&R got me off on a good start I must say! Don't get me wrong now, like many of you, I'm kicking off 2020 with some goals in mind. Not resolutions, but actual goals. Attainable goals with action plans to get there.

Not only am I looking to stepping things up a notch on this blog and IG, but setting goals personally, professionally, and spiritually. And if you don't mind, I'll be sharing the details on some of these as the months go by as well as looping you in on my progress. I'm counting on you all to keep me on my toes... Hello accountability partners!

Getting this blog up and running has been a desire of mine for a very long time (hence the starts and stops of prior years). There's so much I want to do here, as the idea of having my little space on the web to tap into suppressed creative energy is well worth the hard work and effort it takes to maintain and keep it going. With that being said, I hope that you decide to hang in there with me as I get this thing going!

(Outfit Deets: Thermal Tee - Target; Belt and Skinny Jeans - Gap; Lace-Up Boots - Steve Madden; Blanket Scarf - Forever21)

Now, how about we get into this look, shall we? Let me share with you a coveted closet staple and one of my favorite go to's for mild winter days - The Blanket Scarf. 

I posted this exact scarf a while back on IG, which goes to show how the Blanke Scarf stands the test of time. Belting it over a thick long-sleeved thermal tee, jeans, and knee-high boots makes for a chic pulled together weekend look. 

What are some of your coveted closet staples for winter? Share in the comment box below! And as always, thank you for visiting!


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Welcoming 2020

Happy New Year friends!

I hope that your new year is off to a great start! I've got to be candid here, I didn't participate in the ring in festivities. I was just plain tired and felt that I've seen enough New Year celebrations to start the new decade off with some much needed R&R. Mind you, I've been fighting off a bad winter cold and NyQuil had me asleep by 9:00 pm.

However, today, I managed to start my day off on the right foot. Well rested and focused. After completing the good ole Southern New Year tradition, a cooking cabbage and black-eyed peas for dinner, I got into reading several of my favorite magazines from 2019 that literally sat on the bookshelf collecting dust.

How did you spend the first day of the New Year?!


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