Welcome to The PolkaDot Theory™, a personal blog, where I'm navigating through this thing called life, mid-life that is. Thank you for stopping by! xoxo - Tren



Tip Tuesday: How to Stay On Track When Working From Home

I've been working from home quite frequently these days (thanks to a much needed job change). While at home, I try be sure that I maintain an environment that helps me stay productive and on top of my tasks so that I don't get distracted by all the things that I "could" be doing at home instead of working (I guess that's the HR in me. I would literally write myself up - haha). 

If you're like me and can be easily tempted to go sit on the couch and watch HGTV, here are 3 tips to keep you on track: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

1. Clean Your Workspace - Ensure that it is free from clutter or any shiny distracting objects. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
2. Create a To Do List - I'm old school, I pull out a notebook and jot down all of the items I need to tackle for the day. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
3. Schedule Breaks - I recommend taking frequent short breaks, that way if there's anything around the house that you would like to get done, you can visit those items during break time. Again I don't recommend sitting down and watching HGTV - lol. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
How do you stay on track while working from home?

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Courage over Comfort

"We can use courage or we can use comfort. We can't have both." - Brene Brown

Some of us tend to find peace in being comfortable. Finding it unnecessary to experience new adventures. We use things like our careers, our families, and our age as an excuse to give up on our hopes and dreams. 

We're okay with the security of the career that no longer brings us joy, rather than going after something we are just meant to do. We're comfortable with the friendships that stagnate us rather than meeting new like-minded folks that can inspire us to grow. We're okay with keeping the same bad habits that prevent us from being healthy. We're comfortable sitting on the sidelines watching others find the courage to go after their own personal joy wishing that we can do it for ourselves. 

Well, I've got a secret that I'd like to share with you - You can do it for yourself. You don't have to sit on the sidelines and wish. You can get up and make one decision today. The decision to have the courage to step outside of your comfort zone and give it a try.


The reasons that I shared are not hypothetical, trust me, they are real. It's taken a great effort for me to find the courage to move out of my comfort zone. To push past all of the things that I allowed myself to believe. I relied on my comfort zone so much that I stayed in a job that had a negative impact on my physical and mental health. I stayed in friendships because of the time and figured I was too old to make new friends. No New Friends was literally my theme song. I gained 15 lbs. and pushed off working out and creating healthier habits because it was just the middle-age spread. I have started and stopped working on this blog because, hey who has time for that? At the end of the day, I can't find joy in my comfort anymore, the joy comes from watching myself have the courage to push through and do the hard things.  

Are there any areas of your life that you have the courage to step out of your comfort zone? Leave a comment, I'd love to cheer you on Friend! 

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A Goal without a plan is just a Wish...

"A goal without a plan is just a wish." - Unknown

I've spent the first week of 2021 laying low. Preparing myself for a physical, mental, and spiritual reset. After the whirlwind of a year in 2020, I promised myself that I would approach things differently this year - all starting with me.

I've been the person to to set these big goals and fumble my way to them (if I even reached them at all). Taking myself through frustration and disappointment that really did not serve me. 

So this year I'm mixing things up, changing my approach. I've decided to slow down a bit and reflect. Truly take my time to determine what I want this year to look like and create a plan to curate the life that I desire.

What about you, have you set aside time to map out your goals for 2021? 

Outfit Details: Wrap Sweater - H&M, Tank Top - A New Day for Target, Frames- Gucci

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Just Right

"The fear of not being enough and the fear of being too much is the exact same fear. 
The fear of being you."

If 2020 has taught us anything, it's taught us that life is way too short and we only get one shot at this one. With us winding down on this nightmare of a year, it's the perfect time to course correct. Shift our minds out of limiting beliefs, discouraging ideals, and "untruths" that people have forced us to believe about ourselves. 

We all have witnessed the tragedies of this pandemic, the sudden loss of loved ones, jobs, realities, and our overall way of life gone just like that. Tomorrow is not promised friends. We have to stop being afraid of who we really are. Tell me, why fear? 

Each and everyone of us were born in this world with a gift and assignment. Some may be larger than others, but in reality there's not one single gift/talent that is deemed greater than the other. Let's stop allowing that stupid inner voice, the negative Nancy's and or Jeff's have a say in what our tomorrow will look like.  

You've got one shot to Be who and what God has called you to Be. The truth is that you may not Be for everyone, and trust me, that is ALL RIGHT. You don't have to be (exist in this world) for anyone else, but you've got to Be because you're supposed to be - even if it's just for you. 

I'm talking to myself right now. If you've visited here before I've been running around in circles trying to figure this thing out. With all that's gone on in my life, starting and stopping, trying to find my voice when it's been here the whole time. I've been afraid of "Being", feeling like I too am a bit much and in some cases not enough. That way of thinking is going out the door along with all of the stress and heartbreak that 2020 has brought with it. I'm not saying this or life will be perfect, but easing out of a self inflicting fear is sure to be the start of something better. That something that is just right for me. 

So let's start fresh in 2021. Who's with me? 

Outfit Details: This is the most comfortable jumpsuit ever. Visit to get yours! It's a cutie for cold and warm weather. The cardigan is a Target find from last year by Knox Rose collection. I was never a sneaker girl until well comfort season. These platform #Airforce1s are one of my favs.

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What Am I Doing Here?

Theory No.:025 - Sometimes life forces you into a strong pivot, be wise, and just go with it. 

Last Wednesday I celebrated my 45th birthday, nothing fancy this year. As a matter of fact, I laid in bed all day recovering from a major migraine. I'm just thankful that a migraine was all that it was.

Nevertheless, I managed to reflect on the last 5 years and all that's happened in my life since joining the 40-club. Found myself in the most ah-mazing relationship ever after experiencing a tough divorce, got engaged, moved to Indiana and back to Texas, landed the job/title that I jotted down in my journal a few years ago, got a professional certification, and a lot more.

While I'm so proud that I reached most of my goals there's one that I haven't poured myself into... Polkadot Theory.

When I created this blog, there was only one intention: to have a place to reignite my creativity. A place where I can express my true feelings about coming into my "mid-life" self, the bumpy road to getting here and to share the things that are close to my heart.

So when I log onto the site and see the few posts that I rushed to put together or the post of me "trying" to be a blogger, I gag. The truth of the matter is that I tossed this blog aside not truly seeing the value of what this space brings. I'd fallen victim to the who do I think I am, I'm not like this one or that one. You know the "imposter syndrome" and the "comparison game".

So I asked myself, WTF am I doing here? Can go back to the original concept and create the space in which I feel most comfortable and stop trying to be a "blogger" and just be? My desire to blog has not decreased by one bit, nor has my thoughts stopped flowing?

Well, I guess I've just answered my own question. I can do this, most importantly, I WANT to do this. But just like everything else I tend to go after, it's going to have to be my way.

So here we go yet again, life dishing me a strong pivot. Giving me permission to get back to the basics. I see this as a birthday gift, going into my 45th year being free to dive into my creative space with no fear. 

Dress: Universal Thread - Belt: A New Day - Earrings: SugarFix - All Items from Target
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Wild Thing - It's Leo Season Baby

"Women always try to tame themselves as they get older, but the ones who look best are often a bit untamed, a bit wilder." - Miuccia Prada

Forty-Five - The number of years that I've physically been on this earth. Is it crazy to say that I never thought about who I would actually become at this point in my life? I'd been so focused on living. 

I never thought of myself as old and never want to. I'd like to just keeping living life to the fullest. Defying what society says I should be at this time. While I patiently await this new chapter I pray that my life continues to evolve and I continue to grow where I'm planted. 

For all of my Leo sisters out there. Let's vow to maintain our spirit and live our lives out loud, maybe not as wild but wild enough. 

Outfit Details: Dress - Vicidolls
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