Welcome to The PolkaDot Theory™, a personal blog, where I'm navigating through this thing called life, mid-life that is. Thank you for stopping by! xoxo - Tren



WTF Am I Doing Here?

Theory No.:025 - Sometimes life forces you into a strong pivot, be wise, and just go with it. 

Last Wednesday I celebrated my 45th birthday, nothing fancy this year. As a matter of fact, I laid in bed all day recovering from a major migraine. I'm just thankful that a migraine was all that it was.

Nevertheless, I managed to reflect on the last 5 years and all that's happened in my life since joining the 40-club. Found myself in the most ah-mazing relationship ever after experiencing a tough divorce, got engaged, moved to Indiana and back to Texas, landed the job/title that I jotted down in my journal a few years ago, got a professional certification, and a lot more.

While I'm so proud that I reached most of my goals there's one that I haven't poured myself into... Polkadot Theory.

When I created this blog, there was only one intention: to have a place to reignite my creativity. A place where I can express my true feelings about coming into my "mid-life" self, the bumpy road to getting here and to share the things that are close to my heart.

So when I log onto the site and see the few posts that I rushed to put together or the post of me "trying" to be a blogger, I gag. The truth of the matter is that I tossed this blog aside not truly seeing the value of what this space brings. I'd fallen victim to the who do I think I am, I'm not like this one or that one. You know the "imposter syndrome" and the "comparison game".

So I asked myself, WTF am I doing here? Can go back to the original concept and create the space in which I feel most comfortable and stop trying to be a "blogger" and just be? My desire to blog has not decreased by one bit, nor has my thoughts stopped flowing?

Well, I guess I've just answered my own question. I can do this, most importantly, I WANT to do this. But just like everything else I tend to go after, it's going to have to be my way.

So here we go yet again, life dishing me a strong pivot. Giving me permission to get back to the basics. I see this as a birthday gift, going into my 45th year being free to dive into my creative space with no fear. 

Dress: Universal Thread - Belt: A New Day - Earrings: SugarFix - All Items from Target
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Putting Things in Order

"Either you run the day or the day runs you." - Jim Rohn

How do you start your days? Do you have a morning routine? Something that jumpstart your day? 

I am a firm believer in the quote above. Mr. Rohn couldn't articulate this any better. I'm not sure about you, but I've tried and tested this theory. These last few weeks I have been making it a practice to set the tone for my days because of the simple fact that I spend most of my days in a fast-paced and high-stress environment. The demands and stress started filtering into my personal life and having a negative impact on my health. For this purpose, I found that I needed to change and today I'm sharing what I have incorporated in my morning routine. 

I'm not sure if you have heard about the Miracle Morning plan. I've started adding these simple practices before I do any of my normal morning preparation. So here it is, it's the SAVERS..

  • Silence - Start your day with silence. Spend a few moments quietly, no distractions, and take this time to focus on your inner self. Your thoughts.
  • Affirmation - Use affirmations that are aligned with your goals. Affirmations that you can take into action. 
  • Visualization - Visualize yourself in full stride throughout the day. See and feel yourself experiencing those things that you really want to see happen in the day. Get down to the details, feel those feelings. 
  • Exercise - Spend time moving your body. Don't worry about what it is or how much time, just move your body. 
  • Read - Take this time to take in something for personal development.
  • Scribe - Write, write your goals, and the action steps that you need to take to get those goals started. 

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5 Steps Towards Spiritual Growth

Theory No. 177 - There will always be work to do. Be it spiritual, emotional, physical, professional, or personal; life is a journey and your goal should be to never stop growing.
Cheers to the start of a new month! Not only is this the start of the second half of the year, but July 1st also begins the countdown to my birthday. This year will be another milestone that I'm dubbing Tren 4.5!
I am quite excited to reach this milestone, but I've got to be honest, forty-five came with a quickness. It's almost like I was just celebrating 40. Well in my head because for sure, my body has been reminding me of how quickly the sails turn. Nevertheless, I feel like I've been coasting through years 1-4 of the 40 club journey. While I've accomplished a few goals along the way, I can't help but be real about how I have really been feeling. For the last few months, I've been feeling stagnated and unsure as to what would be next for me. Reaching or better yet manifesting a few goals that I'd written in my journal years back, I've come to a point where I've realized I haven't really thought about what would come next.
So here I am, at 40 club milestone and ready to reassess and jumpstart the journey to the next milestone. With that being said, this year I'm approaching goal-setting a bit differently. Instead of setting external goals, I've planned on buckling down and doing some much needed internal work.

The first goal for Tren 4.5 is to work towards furthering my spiritual growth. For me, optimal spiritual growth goes beyond religious practices. It's about growing in the knowledge of and the relationship with my Creator. It's making sure that I am aligned with my belief system and truly living the life I am being called to live. It is my belief that if I am truly aligned, success will follow.
But how will I approach it all? The first step is to actually commit to doing the work. Once you make that commitment the rest is as easy as doing the work. For starters, I'm sharing these 5 steps to take towards improving your spiritual growth.
5 Steps Towards Spiritual Growth

  1. Block out 30 mins daily - It's so important to first Identify the ideal time that you can devote 30 minutes of uninterrupted time. You should be in a position where you can remove all distractions. This means no phones, no little ones, or better halves (not that they are distractions but you get it) pulling on you for attention. If you can pull yourself away that would be best. I plan to use my office or the backyard for this time.
  2. Start with prayer/meditation - Being able to be still and quiet your mind is vital. Asking the Creator/God/Universe to guide you through this process. The goal is to get centered so that you can focus on doing the work.
  3. Make a list of the areas that you'd like to improve - Identify the areas in which you are falling short, the areas that can use improvement. For example, some of the areas that I believe could improve is daily prayer/meditation time and reading the bible.
  4. Identify action steps that will lead you to improvement - Just like regular goal setting, this actually guides us into practicing and creating the spiritual habit. If I take the example in item 3, I would be jotting down what I need to do to incorporate time for daily prayer/meditation. An example includes, I will wake up 20 minutes earlier to pray and meditate before I begin my day.
  5. Journal progress - Write down your progress or lack thereof. Hold yourself accountable for your commitment.
So there you have it, a few simple ways to grow spiritually. I hope that you find this helpful and that you take this journey with me.
As always, thank you for stopping by!


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The Best Decision Ever – Rest, Relax, and Recharge

“Sometimes the best solution is to Rest, Relax, and Recharge. It’s hard to be your best on empty.” – Sam Glenn

I hope that you had a Happy Memorial Day and that you enjoyed your 3 day weekend! Every year we take a ride down to the cabin for a little R&R, but with the pandemic, we decided to take some time off and stay home. I guess I really didn’t know how much I needed this time to simply slow down and reconnect with myself. I’ve been moving at lightning speed for the last 9 months and when you add the stress that the pandemic bought with it, whew chile!
Don’t get me wrong, I love traveling be it a short road trip or an extended flight to a tropical place, but spending time safe in my home is just what the doctor ordered. I’ve managed to organize and decorate just a bit. What excites me the most is that I’ve been able to clear my mind and do all the things that I truly enjoy… and guess what? I have 3 more days left. 

Not only was the decision to take time off from work a good decision, this Zara Babydoll Dress and this spritzer were wins for me as well. I scored the dress from Zara last year at the tail end of the summer sale. I couldn’t wait to lounge in this cutie. It's so comfortable and easy. To keep the comfort going, I paired it with some simple flip flops.

Lastly, here's a quick little treat to enjoy while you're relaxing and recharging. It's a nice option as the temps begin to rise. Check out the recipe below, give it a try and enjoy!

Peach Spritzer 
  • 1 peach - thinly sliced
  • 1 cup of ice 
  • 1/2 cup of White Peach Dasani Sparkling Water
  • 1/2 cup of Moscato by Barefoot Wines (or more if you want) 

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Theory No. 217 - Just Be Yourself


Theory No. 217 - Just Be Yourself...

I've got to be a bit transparent here. I feel like this is the right platform to do so. The thing is, I've been struggling in this area, you know being myself. A hard pill to swallow, especially at my age. You see year after year, I've set a goal to get this blog off of the ground and to be honest, it's been a struggle. I thought it would be a piece of cake, but in all reality, the blog world has changed so much since the last time I was here, it has been quite difficult for me, to say the least.  

One of my favs wrote a post right after the new year that talked about why a lot of us won't be successful after we start blogging. One of those reasons was falling victim to not being oneself, trying too hard to be like someone else. I think that in life we all fall victim to trying to be like this one and that one and not finding the true value of being authentically ourselves.

Initially, I started this blog with a vision, a rather clear vision of who I was, what I would bring to the table and how I would do it.  I second-guessed myself time after time. I've talked myself into starting just like I've talked myself out of it. 

The reality of it all is that deep down inside, I know exactly what I want. I may not have clear directions on how to get there, but I for damn sure know, the woman that I am, won't stop trying until I arrive. 

(Top: H&M, Skirt: Forever21. Sunnies: Betsy Johnson, Clutch: Louis Vuitton) 

Here's to finding our way friends. Have an AWESOME Monday! 



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Anything is possible if you've got enough nerve - JK Rowling.

"Anything is possible if you've got enough nerve..." - JK Rowling.

I read this quote and it reminded me of a few things that forced me to muster up enough nerve to push through my insecurities this past year. I'm sharing 5 things that pushed me out of my comfort zone, but required the nerve and courage to make things happen in my life.

#1 - Opening myself up on this blog and on social media. I have always have been one to worry about what people thought, and in all honesty, it has held me back from doing a lot of what I love, including blogging. I struggled with finding the right things to say, what an outfit or photos would look like to others, etc. Feeling like I wasn't good enough, knowledgeable enough, you name it. I thought of any and everything that would lead me to just shrug this thing off totally.

However, thanks to a lot of the ladies that have inspired me, their messages were clear. Just start, do, make mistakes, look crazy, or whatever. As Maya Angelou said, "nothing will work unless you do".

Look at me now, the Nerve to create this post!

(Blazer, Satin Pants, & Clutch - Forever21, Tank - A New Day for Target, Sunnies - Betsy Johnson)

#2 - Putting my health and wellness at the forefront of my priorities. There are a few illnesses that run in my family: high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and colon cancer. Making being and staying well a priority motivated me to get the proper screenings that I needed to create a plan for good health.

I didn't stop there though, I also committed to eating right and becoming more active. Taking these small steps got me on the right track. All of my levels stayed in check and I also lost 10lbs lost. Can you believe that?

**Side note: I couldn't fit this jacket before - The Nerve!!

#3 - Focused on advancing in my career. One of the tools to continue to trend upward was to sit for the Senior Human Resources Professional Certification Exam (SPHR). I tried two times a few years back and failed. I have to say, it was a bruise to the ego, as I thought I was at the top of my game even though the pass rate was really low. After those two failures, I vowed that I was done. The money, time, and added stress weren't worth for me, it was but I was hurt. Fast forward to May, I reassessed the materials, created a new plan, studied for 3 months straight, and passed in August 2019.

The Nerve!!

#4 - Forgave myself  - I decided to forgive myself for all of the mistakes that I made in my past. I also, let go of the guilt and shame that was a result of letting down and hurting people that I cared for. For me, it was important that I committed to getting rid of all of the energy that I carried around as a result of these things. It was not only important for me and my wellbeing but to ensure that my current and future relationships were not weighed down as a result of the baggage that I was carrying.

The Nerve to forgive!

#5 - Put in the work to create the life that I desire -  In my 20's the ideal life was living it up, living on my terms, being free! Oh and boy did I have a good time! I didn't care about anything but myself. Not the best way to live, but I lived it to the fullest.

In my 30's it was about settling down and creating the ideal life. You know the get married, buy a house, and try to have those 2.5 kids ideal?  Low and behold that didn't work, something about the right things with the absolute wrong person?

Now that I'm in my 40's,  I will say that the life that I desire is all about what's best for me not in the way of the '20s, but a healthy productive all about me phase. The one that comes with kindness and care, ensuring that I'm focusing on what brings peace and pure joy to my heart.

The Nerve to just create joy?!

In all honesty, this is just the beginning. I am so excited to keep building up the nerve to tackle my fears and push my limits. How about you, what are some of the things that you had enough nerve to accomplish this past year?

As always, thank you for stopping by and taking the time out to read this post. Have a fabulous day!

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