Welcome to The PolkaDot Theory™, a personal blog, where I'm navigating through this thing called life, mid-life that is. Thank you for stopping by! xoxo - Tren



A Goal without a plan is just a Wish...

"A goal without a plan is just a wish." - Unknown

I've spent the first week of 2021 laying low. Preparing myself for a physical, mental, and spiritual reset. After the whirlwind of a year in 2020, I promised myself that I would approach things differently this year - all starting with me.

I've been the person to to set these big goals and fumble my way to them (if I even reached them at all). Taking myself through frustration and disappointment that really did not serve me. 

So this year I'm mixing things up, changing my approach. I've decided to slow down a bit and reflect. Truly take my time to determine what I want this year to look like and create a plan to curate the life that I desire.

What about you, have you set aside time to map out your goals for 2021? 

Outfit Details: Wrap Sweater - H&M, Tank Top - A New Day for Target, Frames- Gucci

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Just Right

"The fear of not being enough and the fear of being too much is the exact same fear. 
The fear of being you."

If 2020 has taught us anything, it's taught us that life is way too short and we only get one shot at this one. With us winding down on this nightmare of a year, it's the perfect time to course correct. Shift our minds out of limiting beliefs, discouraging ideals, and "untruths" that people have forced us to believe about ourselves. 

We all have witnessed the tragedies of this pandemic, the sudden loss of loved ones, jobs, realities, and our overall way of life gone just like that. Tomorrow is not promised friends. We have to stop being afraid of who we really are. Tell me, why fear? 

Each and everyone of us were born in this world with a gift and assignment. Some may be larger than others, but in reality there's not one single gift/talent that is deemed greater than the other. Let's stop allowing that stupid inner voice, the negative Nancy's and or Jeff's have a say in what our tomorrow will look like.  

You've got one shot to Be who and what God has called you to Be. The truth is that you may not Be for everyone, and trust me, that is ALL RIGHT. You don't have to be (exist in this world) for anyone else, but you've got to Be because you're supposed to be - even if it's just for you. 

I'm talking to myself right now. If you've visited here before I've been running around in circles trying to figure this thing out. With all that's gone on in my life, starting and stopping, trying to find my voice when it's been here the whole time. I've been afraid of "Being", feeling like I too am a bit much and in some cases not enough. That way of thinking is going out the door along with all of the stress and heartbreak that 2020 has brought with it. I'm not saying this or life will be perfect, but easing out of a self inflicting fear is sure to be the start of something better. That something that is just right for me. 

So let's start fresh in 2021. Who's with me? 

Outfit Details: This is the most comfortable jumpsuit ever. Visit to get yours! It's a cutie for cold and warm weather. The cardigan is a Target find from last year by Knox Rose collection. I was never a sneaker girl until well comfort season. These platform #Airforce1s are one of my favs.

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What Am I Doing Here?

Theory No.:025 - Sometimes life forces you into a strong pivot, be wise, and just go with it. 

Last Wednesday I celebrated my 45th birthday, nothing fancy this year. As a matter of fact, I laid in bed all day recovering from a major migraine. I'm just thankful that a migraine was all that it was.

Nevertheless, I managed to reflect on the last 5 years and all that's happened in my life since joining the 40-club. Found myself in the most ah-mazing relationship ever after experiencing a tough divorce, got engaged, moved to Indiana and back to Texas, landed the job/title that I jotted down in my journal a few years ago, got a professional certification, and a lot more.

While I'm so proud that I reached most of my goals there's one that I haven't poured myself into... Polkadot Theory.

When I created this blog, there was only one intention: to have a place to reignite my creativity. A place where I can express my true feelings about coming into my "mid-life" self, the bumpy road to getting here and to share the things that are close to my heart.

So when I log onto the site and see the few posts that I rushed to put together or the post of me "trying" to be a blogger, I gag. The truth of the matter is that I tossed this blog aside not truly seeing the value of what this space brings. I'd fallen victim to the who do I think I am, I'm not like this one or that one. You know the "imposter syndrome" and the "comparison game".

So I asked myself, WTF am I doing here? Can go back to the original concept and create the space in which I feel most comfortable and stop trying to be a "blogger" and just be? My desire to blog has not decreased by one bit, nor has my thoughts stopped flowing?

Well, I guess I've just answered my own question. I can do this, most importantly, I WANT to do this. But just like everything else I tend to go after, it's going to have to be my way.

So here we go yet again, life dishing me a strong pivot. Giving me permission to get back to the basics. I see this as a birthday gift, going into my 45th year being free to dive into my creative space with no fear. 

Dress: Universal Thread - Belt: A New Day - Earrings: SugarFix - All Items from Target
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Wild Thing - It's Leo Season Baby

"Women always try to tame themselves as they get older, but the ones who look best are often a bit untamed, a bit wilder." - Miuccia Prada

Forty-Five - The number of years that I've physically been on this earth. Is it crazy to say that I never thought about who I would actually become at this point in my life? I'd been so focused on living. 

I never thought of myself as old and never want to. I'd like to just keeping living life to the fullest. Defying what society says I should be at this time. While I patiently await this new chapter I pray that my life continues to evolve and I continue to grow where I'm planted. 

For all of my Leo sisters out there. Let's vow to maintain our spirit and live our lives out loud, maybe not as wild but wild enough. 

Outfit Details: Dress - Vicidolls
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Putting Things in Order

"Either you run the day or the day runs you." - Jim Rohn

How do you start your days? Do you have a morning routine? Something that jumpstart your day? 

I am a firm believer in the quote above. Mr. Rohn couldn't articulate this any better. I'm not sure about you, but I've tried and tested this theory. These last few weeks I have been making it a practice to set the tone for my days because of the simple fact that I spend most of my days in a fast-paced and high-stress environment. The demands and stress started filtering into my personal life and having a negative impact on my health. For this purpose, I found that I needed to change and today I'm sharing what I have incorporated in my morning routine. 

I'm not sure if you have heard about the Miracle Morning plan. I've started adding these simple practices before I do any of my normal morning preparation. So here it is, it's the SAVERS..

  • Silence - Start your day with silence. Spend a few moments quietly, no distractions, and take this time to focus on your inner self. Your thoughts.
  • Affirmation - Use affirmations that are aligned with your goals. Affirmations that you can take into action. 
  • Visualization - Visualize yourself in full stride throughout the day. See and feel yourself experiencing those things that you really want to see happen in the day. Get down to the details, feel those feelings. 
  • Exercise - Spend time moving your body. Don't worry about what it is or how much time, just move your body. 
  • Read - Take this time to take in something for personal development.
  • Scribe - Write, write your goals, and the action steps that you need to take to get those goals started. 

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5 Steps Towards Spiritual Growth

Theory No. 177 - There will always be work to do. Be it spiritual, emotional, physical, professional, or personal; life is a journey and your goal should be to never stop growing.
Cheers to the start of a new month! Not only is this the start of the second half of the year, but July 1st also begins the countdown to my birthday. This year will be another milestone that I'm dubbing Tren 4.5!
I am quite excited to reach this milestone, but I've got to be honest, forty-five came with a quickness. It's almost like I was just celebrating 40. Well in my head because for sure, my body has been reminding me of how quickly the sails turn. Nevertheless, I feel like I've been coasting through years 1-4 of the 40 club journey. While I've accomplished a few goals along the way, I can't help but be real about how I have really been feeling. For the last few months, I've been feeling stagnated and unsure as to what would be next for me. Reaching or better yet manifesting a few goals that I'd written in my journal years back, I've come to a point where I've realized I haven't really thought about what would come next.
So here I am, at 40 club milestone and ready to reassess and jumpstart the journey to the next milestone. With that being said, this year I'm approaching goal-setting a bit differently. Instead of setting external goals, I've planned on buckling down and doing some much needed internal work.

The first goal for Tren 4.5 is to work towards furthering my spiritual growth. For me, optimal spiritual growth goes beyond religious practices. It's about growing in the knowledge of and the relationship with my Creator. It's making sure that I am aligned with my belief system and truly living the life I am being called to live. It is my belief that if I am truly aligned, success will follow.
But how will I approach it all? The first step is to actually commit to doing the work. Once you make that commitment the rest is as easy as doing the work. For starters, I'm sharing these 5 steps to take towards improving your spiritual growth.
5 Steps Towards Spiritual Growth

  1. Block out 30 mins daily - It's so important to first Identify the ideal time that you can devote 30 minutes of uninterrupted time. You should be in a position where you can remove all distractions. This means no phones, no little ones, or better halves (not that they are distractions but you get it) pulling on you for attention. If you can pull yourself away that would be best. I plan to use my office or the backyard for this time.
  2. Start with prayer/meditation - Being able to be still and quiet your mind is vital. Asking the Creator/God/Universe to guide you through this process. The goal is to get centered so that you can focus on doing the work.
  3. Make a list of the areas that you'd like to improve - Identify the areas in which you are falling short, the areas that can use improvement. For example, some of the areas that I believe could improve is daily prayer/meditation time and reading the bible.
  4. Identify action steps that will lead you to improvement - Just like regular goal setting, this actually guides us into practicing and creating the spiritual habit. If I take the example in item 3, I would be jotting down what I need to do to incorporate time for daily prayer/meditation. An example includes, I will wake up 20 minutes earlier to pray and meditate before I begin my day.
  5. Journal progress - Write down your progress or lack thereof. Hold yourself accountable for your commitment.
So there you have it, a few simple ways to grow spiritually. I hope that you find this helpful and that you take this journey with me.
As always, thank you for stopping by!


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