Welcome to The PolkaDot Theory™, a personal blog, where I'm navigating through this thing called life, mid-life that is. Thank you for stopping by! xoxo - Tren



Better Be The One That Smiles...

"Better be the one that smiles, than the one that doesn't smile back."

There was a time in my life when I as that woman that walked around with sorrow in her eyes and a stoic face. Not quite a frown or scowl, but for sure never a genuine smile. There were several factors that contributed to this, but to be a bit more specific. It was the fact that I relied on external situations to bring joy and happiness in my life. The relationship that I was in at the time, the friends/ company that I kept, and the material things that I acquired were the driving forces behind my happiness. 

When my relationship was on track I was happy and joyful, when I was among people that I considered to be friends, I was happy. When I would score something on my wish list, I was happy. However, when the relationship/friendships would take a turn for the worst or I got over the "shiny" new "thing", the feeling of happiness would wear off just as fast. It became a vicious cycle in which wore me out. 

It wasn't until my late 30's after the relationship/marriage ended and I lost all of those pretty "shiny" things that I realized that I had to break the cycle. I had to get off of the rollercoaster and start a new journey to find happiness. That journey was going to require a commitment to hard work and quite a bit of soul-searching. While it felt intimidating, I knew it was something that I needed to tackle head-on in order to experience the joy and live the life that I truly wanted to live. 

The very first step was the hardest, admitting to myself that a change was necessary. The second step, even harder - identifying what needed to change. Change is not an easy feat and most often "unpretty". However, this process is WELL WORTH IT.. 

Do the work and be the one that Smiles, it's better. Trust me! 

xo xo, 


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Theory No.: 001 – If you keep your goals in plain sight, they will NEVER die!

Theory No.: 001 – If you keep your goals in plain sight, they will NEVER die!
(Shoes: Jessica Simpson, Sunnies: Target, Green Juice: Suja)

If you’ve visited this blog or IG you may notice that there can be spans of time in between posts. You see, when I began this journey, I knew what I wanted to do and thought I had a solid plan on how to do it but things didn’t quite pan out the way I thought they would. Roadblocks kept surfacing, keeping me from the goals that I set.

The blocks didn’t only keep me from blog goals, but other goals as well and in the midst of it all, I would get frustrated with things not going according to MY plan. I would lose faith in myself and my ability to create the life and experience the things that I wanted to experience. During these times, I would say to myself, Tren, take some time. Relax, breathe, take care of [insert other priority here]. Come back to it and it will be waiting for you. And wouldn’t you know it, every time I would allow myself time to break, relax, and refocus I would come back refreshed. It didn’t matter how long or short, I realized the most important thing, not to give up.

Don’t get me wrong, there were times I would say, I’m not good as [insert any of the great bloggers that I follow], I should just focus on work (ie my day job). But it was in those times I would be presented with things, people, or opportunities that would encourage me to keep going and not give up.

This process has taught me a few lessons about how to keep going and never giving up on dreams, with the biggest lesson being never to lose sight of the things that are important to you. No matter how large or small. 

What are some things that help you to keep your eyes on the prize? 
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